" Oh, that wasn't bad..." - Awkward Moments for $100.
That's right folks, I did it again and went out on another date. We had been talking back and forth (both text and on the phone!) for quite some time. We had a couple dates planned, however one things lead to another and two were cancelled. One was my fault and the other was his so i've gotta take 50% of the blame on this one.
This date was a bit on the fly, as I was riding on the ferry back home from Thanksgiving when he asked what I was up to that evening. I figured I had nothing to lose, why not! After consulting with my awesome neighbor (and FRIEND) letting her know where I was going and who I was with, just to make sure if I didn't turn back up someone would know where to start looking...
We met at Outback, which is a great place. Since it was 8pm, which is getting towards my bedtime, we decided to just do salad and a bloomin' onion. I know that Outback's Bloomin' Onions have a great reputation, but honestly folks... it was okay and I was unimpressed. He opened doors, we talked like we had been friends for awhile. He offered to pay, but I insisted on splitting the check. I know, I know, guys are supposed to pay and blah blah blah, but I am an independent woman who can pay her own way, thank you. There were a few moments in the conversation that got a bit strange, he seemed really interested in how much I made and definitely wanted me to know how much he made. I politely smiled and said "enough to pay the rent and keep everyone happy". He told me about the 700K house he is purchasing in Granite Falls like I was supposed to ohh and aww over it. It was a little strange as I don't care what he makes, i'm much more interested in the person. At the end of the night he walked me out to my car and we kissed. Yes, you read that right, we kissed. This is the first guy I have kissed since my soon-to-be ex husband. I was definitely the awkward one here, after the kiss I looked at him and said "oh, that wasn't bad" -- I'll take words I should have kept in my head for $100 Alex. I hurried to my car and took off home and went over to my neighbor to check in and gossip about the date.
That evening we texted back and forth for awhile. It was nothing significant... but the next morning he asked what I was doing Saturday evening. I didn't have any plans on the table, other than clean my apartment and start hauling out Christmas stuff. We tentatively made plans and he was going to call after he got done playing board games at his mom's house. Finally at 10pm I said goodnight and went to bed. According to him he was still playing games at his mom's house. On Sunday things got really weird, he tried to invite himself over. First of all my downstairs looks like Christmas threw up all over the place and secondly, are you kidding? We went on one date and your inviting yourself over? The conversation got even stranger from there. He told me all about the $600 Nintendo Switch gaming system he had purchased for his daughter. It wasn't that he purchased it for his daughter but it's that he has to tell me what he spends on EVERYTHING. I don't know how to read it, other than it feels like bragging and i'm just not a fan of it. I told him that was what my son wanted too, but there is no way I could afford a $600 gaming system, nor does he need a system that expensive. He then told me I could get it used (no, I can't, I looked) at Game Stop and that it really only costs $300. I don't know, the whole conversation just turned strange.
It's Monday afternoon and I haven't heard a word from him today. I'm okay with that. It's another date for the books and another notch in my confidence booster. I'm not sure what I think about the whole dating process right now... I am working on myself with a couple toe dips into the dating world. My question to my readers now is when is it appropriate to talk about money matters when your dating someone? I know that sometimes i'm more secretive about my finances, just because both of my ex's tended to be a bit strange about financial matters and admittedly i'm not sure how finances are even supposed to work in a relationship which might make me awkward in financial matters. I'm pretty based in reality, I know how I can be sometimes. Enlighten me folks, what do you think?
This date was a bit on the fly, as I was riding on the ferry back home from Thanksgiving when he asked what I was up to that evening. I figured I had nothing to lose, why not! After consulting with my awesome neighbor (and FRIEND) letting her know where I was going and who I was with, just to make sure if I didn't turn back up someone would know where to start looking...
We met at Outback, which is a great place. Since it was 8pm, which is getting towards my bedtime, we decided to just do salad and a bloomin' onion. I know that Outback's Bloomin' Onions have a great reputation, but honestly folks... it was okay and I was unimpressed. He opened doors, we talked like we had been friends for awhile. He offered to pay, but I insisted on splitting the check. I know, I know, guys are supposed to pay and blah blah blah, but I am an independent woman who can pay her own way, thank you. There were a few moments in the conversation that got a bit strange, he seemed really interested in how much I made and definitely wanted me to know how much he made. I politely smiled and said "enough to pay the rent and keep everyone happy". He told me about the 700K house he is purchasing in Granite Falls like I was supposed to ohh and aww over it. It was a little strange as I don't care what he makes, i'm much more interested in the person. At the end of the night he walked me out to my car and we kissed. Yes, you read that right, we kissed. This is the first guy I have kissed since my soon-to-be ex husband. I was definitely the awkward one here, after the kiss I looked at him and said "oh, that wasn't bad" -- I'll take words I should have kept in my head for $100 Alex. I hurried to my car and took off home and went over to my neighbor to check in and gossip about the date.
That evening we texted back and forth for awhile. It was nothing significant... but the next morning he asked what I was doing Saturday evening. I didn't have any plans on the table, other than clean my apartment and start hauling out Christmas stuff. We tentatively made plans and he was going to call after he got done playing board games at his mom's house. Finally at 10pm I said goodnight and went to bed. According to him he was still playing games at his mom's house. On Sunday things got really weird, he tried to invite himself over. First of all my downstairs looks like Christmas threw up all over the place and secondly, are you kidding? We went on one date and your inviting yourself over? The conversation got even stranger from there. He told me all about the $600 Nintendo Switch gaming system he had purchased for his daughter. It wasn't that he purchased it for his daughter but it's that he has to tell me what he spends on EVERYTHING. I don't know how to read it, other than it feels like bragging and i'm just not a fan of it. I told him that was what my son wanted too, but there is no way I could afford a $600 gaming system, nor does he need a system that expensive. He then told me I could get it used (no, I can't, I looked) at Game Stop and that it really only costs $300. I don't know, the whole conversation just turned strange.
It's Monday afternoon and I haven't heard a word from him today. I'm okay with that. It's another date for the books and another notch in my confidence booster. I'm not sure what I think about the whole dating process right now... I am working on myself with a couple toe dips into the dating world. My question to my readers now is when is it appropriate to talk about money matters when your dating someone? I know that sometimes i'm more secretive about my finances, just because both of my ex's tended to be a bit strange about financial matters and admittedly i'm not sure how finances are even supposed to work in a relationship which might make me awkward in financial matters. I'm pretty based in reality, I know how I can be sometimes. Enlighten me folks, what do you think?
"What do you do?" is a fairly common getting-to-know-you question but "How much do you make?" is rather more invasive. Honestly, Chris and I discussed finances and how we would split the bills when we moved in together but it wasn't until a guy from the census bureau stopped by that we actually talked about how much we made.
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