Missed the relationship memo.... again
This weekend was a little crazy at our house. I wasn't supposed to have my kiddo (it's H1's weekend) but ended up having him so his dad could do some computer work. I will never pass up an opportunity to hang out with C, so we headed off to the Seattle Science Center with some good friends.
Saturday evening I had a date scheduled with K. We had been talking online for awhile, that moved to text messages and then we finally met in person. We were originally going to meet on Friday night, however Friday evening turned into a cluster of things I needed to get done before Saturday. He was irritated that Friday didn't happen, I can't blame him there. I just got busy and time got away from me.
Anyway, Saturday we met for dinner at Sushi Zen - an excellent sushi spot in Mill Creek. We met about 7:30, I wore jeans, boots and a t-shirt because fancy was not on the agenda for me. He had assured me on the phone that he wasn't dressing up either - that was an understatement. Once we were seated we chit-chatted about the menu, he suggested sushi, but evidently isn't a raw fish fan (wtf!), doesn't like anything with any spice and wanted to know where the conveyer belt was. Okay, I know I'm a bit of a sushi snob, but sheesh.
The conversation continued and consisted mostly of me randomly talking. We had a nice time, there was nothing eventful - definitely no sparks. We left the date on good terms and I headed home. By the time I had gotten home he had already texted asking if I'd like to go out again. I said I would, in hopes that my guy picker is just off and K is just a normal guy... then it started...
K: You have a great ass
Me: Umm, thanks
K: Why can't you just take a complement nicely?
Me: I guess I'm just not used to them.
K: If you would open up to me we could have a great relationship
Me: That takes time.
K: Well, it wouldn't take that much time if you weren't always running away from me...
** Seriously, what the heck? He then proceeded to tell me that I needed to quit running away from people because if I just opened up anything could happen. Ok buddy, I've already got a therapist who is amazing - I don't need your "advise" on my life that you know absolutely nothing about. Of course this whole thing escalated and I ended up telling him I didn't want to go out with him again or see him again. That made him mad, where he "broke up" with me. Evidently, I manage to miss this memo noting an exclusive relationship all the time.
I'm confident enough to know that I don't need to immediately open up to anyone and I'm not going to open up until I'm ready, so either sit back and let me go at my pace or get out of the passenger seat because buddy, this isn't your ride. Part of me is beginning to think that chemistry just isn't a thing anymore. Sometimes I hope that there is still someone out there that will make my heart flutter, but there's another part of depression that is sneaking in. You have got to be kidding me - this is the choice pool I get? It might not be worth the time or energy....
Saturday evening I had a date scheduled with K. We had been talking online for awhile, that moved to text messages and then we finally met in person. We were originally going to meet on Friday night, however Friday evening turned into a cluster of things I needed to get done before Saturday. He was irritated that Friday didn't happen, I can't blame him there. I just got busy and time got away from me.
Anyway, Saturday we met for dinner at Sushi Zen - an excellent sushi spot in Mill Creek. We met about 7:30, I wore jeans, boots and a t-shirt because fancy was not on the agenda for me. He had assured me on the phone that he wasn't dressing up either - that was an understatement. Once we were seated we chit-chatted about the menu, he suggested sushi, but evidently isn't a raw fish fan (wtf!), doesn't like anything with any spice and wanted to know where the conveyer belt was. Okay, I know I'm a bit of a sushi snob, but sheesh.
The conversation continued and consisted mostly of me randomly talking. We had a nice time, there was nothing eventful - definitely no sparks. We left the date on good terms and I headed home. By the time I had gotten home he had already texted asking if I'd like to go out again. I said I would, in hopes that my guy picker is just off and K is just a normal guy... then it started...
K: You have a great ass
Me: Umm, thanks
K: Why can't you just take a complement nicely?
Me: I guess I'm just not used to them.
K: If you would open up to me we could have a great relationship
Me: That takes time.
K: Well, it wouldn't take that much time if you weren't always running away from me...
** Seriously, what the heck? He then proceeded to tell me that I needed to quit running away from people because if I just opened up anything could happen. Ok buddy, I've already got a therapist who is amazing - I don't need your "advise" on my life that you know absolutely nothing about. Of course this whole thing escalated and I ended up telling him I didn't want to go out with him again or see him again. That made him mad, where he "broke up" with me. Evidently, I manage to miss this memo noting an exclusive relationship all the time.
I'm confident enough to know that I don't need to immediately open up to anyone and I'm not going to open up until I'm ready, so either sit back and let me go at my pace or get out of the passenger seat because buddy, this isn't your ride. Part of me is beginning to think that chemistry just isn't a thing anymore. Sometimes I hope that there is still someone out there that will make my heart flutter, but there's another part of depression that is sneaking in. You have got to be kidding me - this is the choice pool I get? It might not be worth the time or energy....
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